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Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton
That is me. I suppose when the grudge comes in is.. when do you decide to let those people back in your life a little bit because you realize you could be hurting yourself in some way...avoiding a good friend or looking foolish at work.
Another "grudge" at work involves someone who went behind my back to steal a job from me. She still works there and we still run into each other from time to time. She gets to act like a normal human and by my having the grudge.. I somehow seem to be insane or childish. I find her talking with my boss often and puts it on me to tell him all of our past which, probably will make me look insane and small.
So should I just let it go? But if I do.. she wins. But has she won anyway and I am just making it harder on myself by acting this way?
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I don't think you need to tell your boss that you two had issues. Sometimes due to the nature of work place (it's not like regular friendships), you have to put up with stuff and behave normal even if you want to kick somebody lol sometimes you can't avoid people.
We had somebody at work who'd get into arguments with people and then make it hard for them, every time there was a problem she ran to complain about people, or she acted weird/insane around people because she was mad at them, she was told "you teach high school, you aren't IN high school". Lol she was eventually transferred to a different building. Administration usually dislikes complainers.
I think since it's a work place, you might let it go. Not become BFF but just be decent and neutral