{{{{{confused}}}}}} I can tell that you need a warm, loving safe hug right now. I wish ai could give it to you, but alas at my cold computer this is the best I can do.
I seem to be really connecting on a personal level to the posts tonite. I relate to yours as well. I married my husband as a "daddy " replacement as well. Mine left after years of drinking and sexual absue when I was 11. It was a blessing to have him gone. But, the repercussions have lasted a lifetime. I do understan all that you are saying.
I am thinking of you right now and sending you my love and compassion. I truly am. Please know this and we will both try to get some sleep
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