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Originally Posted by HuggyBear
I have a friend who has serious problems of self-esteem. She procrastinates and think that she can't do even simple things she actually can do.
She is negative and needs help.
She is also self-boycotting.
She refuses help and finds thousands of excuses to reject help and pretend that no help works for her.
My question is: is it better for my own psychological well-being if I avoid talking to her?
I think that her negativity may only damage me and I know that I can't help her in any way because I'm no psychologist and also because she refuses help.
She is one of those people who wants to suffer and wants everyone around them to suffer as well.
In other words: is it best for my own psychological well-being to avoid spending time with negative people like my friend?
Is it better, instead, to stay with people who care about their psychological well-being?
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I would say yes, in general it is best to steer clear of severely negative people and to surround yourself with people who care about their own well-being. If a friend refuses help and wants to swim in her own negative world, there's nothing you can do. You can lead a horse to the water, but you can't make them drink!
IF this person is in fact bringing you down, weighing you down and effecting your own well-being, then yes, I would ease away from her. You don't need to tell her directly, but you can slowly start to respond less. And if she asks you about it, you can just be honest and tell her that she refuses help and that you have done everything you can but that it's too frustrating to be friends with her and it's impacting you negatively.
The most important thing here is to look after and take care of yourself and your own well-being. A friendship that infects your well-being is a toxic one.. . like drinking poison.
Wishing you well, and best of luck with it! HUGS!