thanks everyone for your replies. you are all right and even some of my close friends have observed how the younger one seems to be loved more, i am guilty of that and so is my husband.... i have tried to tell my husband to be more open and loving with her, he tries but she has built this wall up i guess because over the years she has felt unloved.

my anxiety gets to me and i think into the future, like what if she gets into boys, drugs, etc ......but i have to pull myself back to the present and say to myself this can still be fixed.

hubby is hardly around he works long hours, and i am on stress leave so i am dealing with the kids most of the time.

anyways thanks again for your replies. i had a rough day today with the anxiety, hoping tommorow is a better day.