If her dad is hardly around then she could well be reacting to that too. Does she have special time with him?

Both me & my sister had special time alone with our dad (separately), it was often doing something like swimming or a walk, going to the amusement arcades. Our dad worked a 7 day week often but he would do this on a half day or after work one evening.

You write she is ungrateful but idk many 13 yr olds would be. Know I took my parents for granted but I sure appreciate now what they did for me. We did not have the perfect relationship (who does?) but I have strong happy memories of those outings with my dad. If you know you are cared about and valued by your dad it sets a good precedent for other relationships so when those boys do come along (& they will likely) hopefully she will choose wisely!