You never REALLY know someone until you have dated for over a year & even then there are always new surprises (not always good ) that hit.

He seriously needs to stsy in his OWN PLACE if he does come to yoyr location. That is just common sense wisdom while getting to really know him. Just because you met once doesnt mean you really know him or how he really reacts to things IRL & over the internet people can put on any mask they want you to see.

Fantasy is what you are borh experiencing & his coming to where you live might be just talk also. Those kinds of relationships very seldom amount to one you would want to permanently end up in anyway & depending on the differences is culture between yoyr countries could make a HUGE difference in how youvget along. Differences that dont come up until after you start getting to really know each other.

I think your hesitation is really your gut feeling/intuition telling you that this whole thing isn't a wise idea & it is more important to listen to your gut feeling/ intuition than worring about "Ruining his plans". You have to live your life & that IS the only important thing you should be concerned with. Dont get involved emotionally or physically with him until you have time to really know what he is like IRL.

I knew & dated a guy for almost a year. We talked about getting married & we seemed to get along well. Just before the wedding some serious issues hit me about his personality & I wanted to call off the wedding. I got talked out of it & ended up justifying in my own mind going ahead with the wedding. I stayed 33 years in that bad marriage because I wasnt wise enough to understand those red flags & listen to my gut feeling/intuition. I finally left him for exactly the same thing I saw in those red flags 33 years earlier. When I left I asked him why he had wanted tovget married & his comment was that everyone else was & thats what youvare supposed tovdo after graduating from college. Neithed on us married with any real love for each other even thoygh we thought it was at the time but neither of us knew how to connect emotionally something I realized much later. We thought what was felt was that but were tptly wrong.

Done get involved with someone when yoyr gut feel says NO just because you woukd "hate to ruin his plans". Dont RUIN YOUR LIFE trying not to ruin his plans" how seriously unwise would that be?