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Originally Posted by Amyjay
I am sorry you feel hurt and tricked. I bet she didn't want this outcome for your communications either. It is quite possible that she heard you much more than she was able to convey in her response at the time.
I can see that this is part of your work together. She repeatedly fails you on this point (extra communication) but it seems like overall you find your way back to each other and resolve the issues. So the trust in her is there overall even though she still doesn't meet your expectations in holiday emails.
I dunno, keep working this seems like such important work.
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Hi Amyjay,
I'm sure you're right. My t would not want this outcome at all. She's a good and caring person. It's possible that she felt more support and connection than she conveyed in her reply. I admit I hadn't considered that possibility. I would say, though, that unless a person verbalizes their feelings of support and connection (or finds another way to express it), the person on the other end is not going to know they feel it. To them, it will seem nonexistent. So I had no way of knowing how my t felt unless she told me. I had only her two sentences to go on.
I sure hope we can get through this issue together. We've had similar situations several times, and my t always showed a desire and willingness to talk it over and work things out. But this time feels different. She hasn't suggested that I come to my session tomorrow rather than cancel it, nor has she said anything to my expression of just needing to go underground for awhile. It feels like she's letting go and giving up on me.