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Originally Posted by Willowleaf
My t always says I should ask for what I want rather than expect her to guess or offer. So in this case if I had emailed or text that I needed a conversation she would give it, but she won't offer it. I have had several infuriating emails like you describe and she always says how hard it is to connect by email. Every now and then she manages to reply in a way that helps but often I feel more frustrated. These days I am better at working out what I want so in an email I would ask for support or reassurance or a question etc.
I'm really sorry you are feeling like this as it been there and it's horrible. Maybe you need to go over this with her when she returns. I have been caught a bit when mine goes on holiday and in the early days she offered contact, but I didn't know how it ask for what I wanted and it was a train wreck!
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Hi Willowleaf,
I'm sorry you have experiences like this too. It sounds like you've been able to get clearer with your t about what it is that you want from her in the way of support. I probably do not do a very good job of saying what I want. I feel selfish asking for things, and would much rather she offer support than for me to actually ask for it. When I have to ask for it, I feel guilty, as though I am now making them feel obligated to do something that they may not want to actually do. I think my t must have a good idea of what I want, though, because we've worked together for a very long time. She knows my issues, my triggers, and my needs. I think it would be impossible for her not to know by now. So when things like this happen, it leaves me feeling very confused. I end up feeling like I don't know who is at fault or even if my perceptions are right. I wonder if I'm just crazy after all.