Welcome,
I pretty much agree with eskie, take a step back, enjoy what you have and try not to worry about what it is or isn't.
I might add my fella does this 'helping ' thing. He tries to help me with things I have managed perfectly well before him. And although I know he is only trying to help, it makes me feel like he thinks I am incapable, on a bad day it can make me feel he thinks I am stupid.

Rationally I know I am being silly, but if we were all rational all the time, we wouldn't be here.

All the best.