Thank you all for your suggestions. i took your advices and told him we need to slow down and first meet even for a shorter period of time and date without living together.

he got mad as i expected. he said im giving up and talked as if i had told him i dont want to see him anymore! i told him he doesnt even listen to me and always gets mad when i dont say exactly what he wants to hear. he even said my behavior is not normal because i always change my mind at the last minute. last minute? we havent planned anything yet, not when we meet and not even where (my country or his?)! i felt he was more worried about what his parents would have thought about this "plan change" than anything else...

then i took the blame saying im scared. it is true but it was also a way to "make peace". i told him im scared of disappointing him and its true. what scares me the most though is sleeping together. not sex or anything else.... sleeping. i need my bed, my room, being alone. otherwise going to sleep becomes a nightmare.
i dont know if anyone could accept that? being together but sleeping in different rooms??? this is what scares me the most. any way to overcome this problem?