I've always felt overshadowed by the accomplishments of my brother and I've always been considered simply "his sister". At school friends would come up to me and praise him, and at family holiday gatherings I'm never asked how I am or what I'm doing let alone carrying on a conversation, it's always what kind of exciting news I have about my brother, what he's up to, how he's been, where's he going, etc. I get angry thinking about family gatherings and I'm going back and forth with the idea of "never going again" to "prove to them I'm worth talking to".

I'm struggling with knowing who I am and what makes me an individual. What makes me unique? How do I become my own person? Where do I start the journey of self-discovery? How do I embrace my flaws and appreciate the good and the bad about me? What am I even looking for and how do I know I've found it? Are there any self-help books or workbooks that are worth checking out? Thank you.