HI,
Here's my 2 cents worth. I have given birth to 4 children...all natural and YES it hurts and YES...things happen that you can't control. But it is all part of the process....you have to experience it for yourself...every one is diffrent and every birth is diffrent. My 1st son took 20 hours to get here...2 hours of pushing...my second son took 17 hours and 1 hour of pushing...3rd son...3 hours and 30 minutes pushing...and daughter took 15 hours and 45 min. of pushing...God made women with bodies that know what to do...and it will kick in and take over. If the 1st experience was so terrible and so on...I would not have had 4 kids.
It's a wonderful miracle...and when they come out healthy that's an even more wonderful miracle! My 3rd son was born with a heart defect and had to have open-heart surgery at the age of 10 weeks. I have had healthy babies and a very sick one...no one can tell you exactly how it will be...can't be determined by doctors either....you have to live it to see. My advice would be to really take it all in...it is truly a miracle.