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Old Aug 23, 2017, 06:59 AM
Sassandclass Sassandclass is offline
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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark View Post
I've always felt overshadowed by the accomplishments of my brother and I've always been considered simply "his sister". At school friends would come up to me and praise him, and at family holiday gatherings I'm never asked how I am or what I'm doing let alone carrying on a conversation, it's always what kind of exciting news I have about my brother, what he's up to, how he's been, where's he going, etc. I get angry thinking about family gatherings and I'm going back and forth with the idea of "never going again" to "prove to them I'm worth talking to".


I'm struggling with knowing who I am and what makes me an individual. What makes me unique? How do I become my own person? Where do I start the journey of self-discovery? How do I embrace my flaws and appreciate the good and the bad about me? What am I even looking for and how do I know I've found it? Are there any self-help books or workbooks that are worth checking out? Thank you.


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A lot of what you're writing seems to talk about "shame" about who you are and shame that you're not more like your brother.
With that in mind, a book that I HIGHLY recommend (and has really helped me) is called "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown. It talks about toxic shame and how to overcome it. How to love yourself for who you are, and how to embrace your unique self. How to live a fulfilling life. Honestly, it's the best self help book I've ever read. It's life changing [emoji169] I wish you all the best! Pm me if you'd like someone to talk to.
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Thanks for this!
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