I have been working on a letter to one of my childhood sexual abusers.I have been doing it in short increments so that I don't get caught up in all the emotions that go along with it.When I eventually get this finished I am seriously considering mailing it.

I have tried talking to this person about it quite a few times in the past but it didn't go well at all because I was told it was my own fault,I was a willing participant and I liked it.

In the letter,I am telling the person exactly what they did to me,how it made me feel,how it has impacted my life,but mostly how they are SO wrong in blaming me,how I was just a little girl,how it started happening at such a young age(as a toddler) and continued for so many years that it became my normal,that I was so conditioned to do those things that it became automatic,etc.

I don't expect or even want any kind of response from the person.I just want to say what I want and need to say after holding it all in my entire life.

Have any of you done that,have you written a letter to one of your abusers?Was it cathartic?