Bud--
I just read your reply now. I kind of come from both sides of the coin, I had a T who terminated me, and I have a good T at the present. I get what you are saying.

When two people get together, and both have past issues (therapist and client), the interactions of each, at least in my previous therapy, made us both become horrible people who I don't think we are. The problem is if the T is subjecting you to countertransference, and if they are under supervision, why do they keep doing it? My behavior escalated. T's supervisor told him I was being manipulative and to not let me do that. ExT told me that. So, I was the worst person I had ever been with that T, yes it started with me going insane. I own my part. But T spewed his countertransference to me, he had a mother who was an alcoholic, so tell me that a part of him didn't enjoy spewing hatred my way. WHy would a so called normal person stay in a relationship like that if they weren't getting anything out of it? So, what choice did I have but to go on? Report him? I am proud of the people who report their Ts, it takes a lot of courage. However, I have no trust in whatever board decides, as if they are going to take my word over Mr. Perfect (except behind the scenes).

My point is that you may be right about some therapists in that they wouldn't go for oversight. I know my T felt relief when I finally left, and he was an asshole right up to the end. But that's okay, because he has only really had this problem with me, his only BPD as he told me. So it must be me.

I have to disagree on a part of what you said. You said that they are so conditioned to think of it in terms of transference. . . I think if they were thinking of things in terms of transference from the past, that they wouldn't take things so personally. I think they get to a point where they start taking it personally. I could be wrong, though.

So, this predicament will continue until somebody actually does something. And I want to do something but can't think of what. Like who am I ? We need an advocate on our side, and an advocate on their side and someone needs to find a better way. This way sucks(sometimes, when it goes bad) and leaves people more damaged than they were to begin with.

I WANT the title BPD changed. Period. There is NO excuse for this label.

I want the issue of when therapy goes bad to be addressed.

But it may never happen.