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Originally Posted by BudFox
Re: thinking of everything in terms of transference, I meant that is their way to escape accountability. Anything a client says, including that they have been wronged by therapy, can be blamed on client projection. It's a guiding principle. A broken therapy attachment that puts the client in a sui spiral isn't real, it's just the client's "repetition compulsion". A new therapy attachment is just a phone call away, and it will clear up any confusion you might have. Call today.
I think the fact that wronged or traumatized clients have no advocate within the system says it all. When my therapist released me back into the wild, my only recourse was to enlist the help of others in her caste. Most of them advocated for my therapist, not me. This is what's called a rigged game. I no play no more.
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My understanding of transference and its role in therapy was different from yours. I viewed transference as something that I was not in control of, something which would therefore be "good" if it showed up in therapy and something that the therapist and I together, as part of the "therapeutic alliance" would learn from, unravel, come to understand, "resolve". . .or something like that.
Didn't work that way. I knew that I was having a negative transference toward my last T but -- as you suggested in another thread -- I hated her because of the way she was treating me, not just because of the transference. The INTENSITY of my feelings and the fact that I couldn't really verbalize them was a result of unresolved trauma and the "transference" of some of the energy that I had had toward people and situations in my past. But then the therapist could not tolerate the intensity of my feelings and, hence, "broke" the "therapeutic alliance" -- at the critical juncture.
Absurd! But ethical. If the therapist couldn't tolerate me, she couldn't tolerate me -- but "how would that make you feel"? How would ANYBODY feel about that? angry, cheated, and powerless? worthless, bad, and "nothing" And what can anybody DO about that? nothing. It's all 'ethical' according to the guidelines.
I would think they would be horrified, if they were capable of any empathy. But my last therapist said that I "triggered" her and, therefore, like anybody, her survival functions took over and her empathy went away.
So much for any "therapeutic alliance"! The therapist couldn't do it!! But since she didn't know she was not capable of handling it until she couldn't handle it -- she gave me some referrals and it was all "ethical" according to their guidelines. I chose not to play again, either.
The problem here is them and their system. It needs to be named, called out, repeatedly, so that eventually it breaks down their wall of denial.