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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I don't know what else he put you through so I won't say he is an abusive or controlling person but his constant threats of suicide if you left is controlling behavior. It is actually very unlikely he will follow through. He just wanted to make you stay with him and keep him up. If you really need to make sure he is ok, I would recommend you do so without letting him know you are so he actually gets on with his life instead of thinking he can still manipulate you.
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This is good advice. I am too naive.... I always see the best in someone. That is just pure naivete. I don't know where this comes from in me.... I wish I could be more street savvy and smart. I am just not. I am soft and have a very compassionate, caring heart - too much so. I am one of those bleeding heart souls that cares to the point of hurting myself. I do back off, once I get hurt, though, and I do look after myself. I won't stay in an abusive situation, and that is why I left him. The point? Thank you -- it probably is manipulative and controlling. I don't even see it.