helpme07,

You have so much going on right now! No wonder you're desperate. you have to do whatever is best for you and your kids. It does not sound like you had much of a foundation to begin your relationship with, so moving on is the best thing!

I'm a firm believer in sticking it out and giving it an honest try, which it sounds like you've done more that your fair share of that, but if he's abusive, he's not worth any of your precious energy! You can leave with a clear conscience on all accounts!

I wish you and your children all the best. I'm glad that you've found PC, there's a lot of support here.