Dear GoneGirl711,

I'm not going to judge you at all. There are probably quite a few reasons that you ended up there where you are at right now.

The most obvious thing is to leave him. Of course it depends how independant you are financially, how old you are, etc. And it depends how independant you are emotionally and socially. It doesn't have to happen today or tomorrow.

However, I recommend to stop asking about the "why" and what you'd have do to get his approvial. Of course I'm far away and I don't know either you or him, but my educated guess is this: The reason he is doing that to you is simply because he can. He probably you picked you for this very reason. And that's why nothing would change his behavior, no matter what you would do. You could win a nobel prize, he would still call you names.

Please focus on yourself and get going.