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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I wanted to add this earlier, but had to run.
My ex, who is very much like this bf of yours, has lived off women during the times in his life when he was not homeless. He always got women to take him in, and then they all ended up throwing him out!
The bottom line is the guy can't stand on his own two feet and he uses women to fall back on when he can find nice ones like you and me.
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Thank you for your reply.
I don't know about my ex's past girlfriends and whether he lived off of them or not. I know of one, another ex fiance, and he was the one who worked and supported the two of them.
Right now, he is standing on his own two feet. He's gotten himself a case worker, he made his way to a shelter, he is fending for himself, and soon will get food stamps and SSI. He's done all of this on his own, without my help. He probably had other people helping him, but he's not mooching off of anyone, as far as I know. His family won't help him anymore, for reasons I am not aware of. He has burnt bridges with them, but I suspect he must have done similar things to them and probably far worse.
I am going to be careful here. Everyone, online and offline, has warned me to be careful about re-establishing a friendship, and I am listening to that. I am not sure what I am doing right now, or what my motive is in being friends again, but I know I still love him and that's what makes this so very hard. The one thing I do know is I cannot get back involved with him romantically, regardless of my feelings and my heart. I also know I will not support him again or let him mooch off of me again. I draw the line.
