Normally I am pretty laid back about this whole online relationship thing.
I will say, I met my partner online gaming, he turned out to have a very significant criminal record which still effects our lives even though the crime took place nearly 10 years ago.
This guy's behaviour is way out of line. I have been seeing my fella for a year and we still don't live together.
We still only see each other once a week, stay over once a month.
I, like you, NEED, my space. I couldn't be having someone in my space 24/7.

This guy is expecting far too much for you to waltz into living together when the truth is, you don't actually know ANYTHING about him.
Someone who loses their temper because you want to keep yourself safe, is not someone you want to get stuck with.
Please consider this very, very carefully and slow things right down.
Take care.