I agree with the others here. This does not sound good. Name calling and insults are not acceptable and are a form of verbal abuse. I am glad you know your limits, and I would definitely recommend a couples therapist, but he may not change his behavior. It's on HIM to make changes, and only in therapy will he see this. In the meantime, you can tell him whenever he acts like that that what he is saying to you is NOT OK, and that you will not accept that form of treatment. You can walk away and tell him you will talk to him when he can be respectful towards you. See what he does then.