First, a little background. I am 18 and i have 2 older sisters, a younger brother, and a pair of parents. My mom was raised in a highly religious household, and her family was insane. Her parents hated her for being a girl, and her dad had some disorder where certain sounds drove him crazy. For as long as i can remember, my mom has been a little crazy about cleaning. She is always vaccuming, reorganizing the house, reorganizing the basement, dusting, or doing some other chore. She does not have a job (my dad makes enough to support all of us) or any hobbies or any social life. I think it is because she thinks if she stops for ever a second, dirt will pile to the ceiling. It has been getting worse in the last couple years. She has a psychologist and been diagnosed with ADHD (hyperactive, not inattentive) and is taking medicine for that as well as anxiety. She often tries to rope all of us into helping her. I love helping her out, but it gets to a point where we spend the entire day cleaning one room that is not even visibly messy, so i have been dreading it lately. She will spend upwards of 6 hours vaccuming just her room. She will spend 2 weeks reorganizing the basement. She is constantly swapping decorations and light fixtures. We have all been able to handle this in the past, but now it has gotten out of hand, now heres why i am here.
My mom will go from 6 am to 9 pm organizing, cleaning, ect. From the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed, she cant stop. Her hands are covered in blisters, she doesnt eat until right before bed, she barely goes shopping for groceries, and she has a small fuse when it comes to emotions. She is killing herself without realizing it. Today (the thing that sent us all over the edge to find help) she has been digging the rocks out of the front yard to sweep the dirt out, and sweeping dirt off the driveway. She is making sure to get in between the cracks of the cement to get every speck of dirt. I cant watch her do this to herself anymore. I need help for her.
Sidenote: she doesnt do the typical OCD things like constant hand-washing or touching things a certain number of times