I didn't mean managing THE CLIENT. I meant managing their own reactions, countertransferences, while trying to keep the feelings and needs of the client in mind, too.

I think that it could probably be done although, of course, it wasn't done for me. And I'm not going to try again -- maybe I'm too tough a case or something. In which case THEY, not we, need to weed us out early and recommend we try something else -- EMDR is available now, it wasn't years ago. Waiting until it all falls apart and then dumping us, even with referrals, is a pretty traumatic way to do things. Doesn't have to be essentially manipulative to still be pretty awful.