I learned from my mistakes even though I didnt SEE what was wrong I FELT it....& tried to think through how NOT to experience that uncomfortable feelung by running numerous different scenarious through my mind so that the next time something happened I couldbtey a different approach. I didnt learn except by observing what I didnt want to be like griwing up because as Erebros said, people with ASD think differently & I grew up with a dad who was that way so I had to sort out my interfaces with people ON MY OWN. Starting long before kindergarten.

Some people ars capable of learning by observation, not having to have their hand held every step of the way....I lived with a H for 33 years who was like that with everything that required common sense. Honestly its exhausting to be around people like that.

Have you been Dx'ed by a T for any REAL mental issue that is causing you to be this way. ASD is known for having communication & personal connection problems as one of the behavioral traits. Might be worth looking into so you know REALLY what you are working with. Sometimes even just being barely on the ASD spectrum & difficult to DX can be cause for the problems you are having. Best to know & eliminate that not know why you ate having so much struggle & the blame cant just be put on parents because many of us with incapable parents still learned how to communicate better than them