i dont need to know what the issue is, but i dont understand why you would *have* to tell your H anything that happened before you met. i mean, your past, your life.. right? Of course, if it's impacting your marriage, then i guess you'll have to figure that answer out.

it sounds like you dont disagree with telling your H, just that you are not ready to do so right now. i agree with sister, you need to do what is right for *you.* Your T is trying to help and i would imagine has your best interests at heart but you are the one who has to do the task and you need to be ready and able to do it and then handle whatever fall out there may be.

i would suggest writing down how you feel about your T pushing you, telling your H and what you would like to see happen. How would you like to proceed? Maybe you can make a plan with your T on exactly how you can acheive this goal, if it really is a goal for you.

try to find ways to soothe yourself, think about your relationship with your T overall as opposed to this one session. Think about how he is with you generally and think about whether or not you think he would do anything to deliberately to anger or hurt you... if you believe he wouldn't, and the connection is good as you say, then lean on that. It doesn't mean you have to do what he said, but it might help you get by until you talk with him again.

oh, one other thing... maybe you can talk with him on the phone about your hesitation in seeing him. i am sure he will feel that this isn't an impass or a complete road stop.. just a difficult climb you can make together.