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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
I am sorry it's so difficult. 
Many of us here deal with very complex psychiatric/medical situations. Welcome! 
When talking with your current pdoc, be sure to repeatedly and clearly state you want your professional relationship with him to continue; State you continue to want him as your pdoc.
When either of you are mentioning "a second set of eyes," clarify you agree to this only for a consult.
You mention your mother, which makes me wonder if you are 18 and/or if your mother is involved in treatment planning with your pdoc. If she is involved, it would be helpful to you to be sure you and she are clearly on the same page with this.
In other words, don't allow any misunderstanding on the point of your desire to keep this pdoc as your pdoc.
If there's a program available which may benefit you in a more comprehensive manner, you might evaluate your options then and decide if you think such a program is worth leaving your pdoc or not.
Always be very clear with practitioners about your strong preferences.
Clearly assert yourself to avoid any misunderstandings.
You are your own best advocate. 
I hope this helps somehow.
I wish I had more to offer you.
Please let us know how you are getting on?
I hope all goes well.
WC |
Thank you so much for your detailed response and attention. I very much appreciate everything you have written. It has helped solidify a lot of what I have been thinking- my brain is just a bit mushy after a second failed med trial and ECT yesterday AND this news from my doctor.
You are so right and I will be as clear as I can that I really want to remain under his care. And you mentioned my age and my mother and her involvement- I am 31 (32 in about 3 months). I live with her for free be years now since I graduated college in 2012 as I couldn't afford living alone anymore with the student loan payback. I worked for about eleven months right after college full time and then was on leave and FMLA leave for a total of four months. I made it a few weeks back at work and then crumbled quickly to my pre-leave state. That is when my pdoc suggested I apply for disability. He left in 2015 and I began working with this current doctor since then. I as granted my disability after three years of fighting but still cannot afford my own place so I remain with my mom. She takes me to my ECTS and my doctor usually speaks with her just a minute or two but she is not involved really.
I try to be assertive and avoid misunderstandings- I can not stand being misunderstood-but I get surprised often with my doctors responses or emphases and I in the moment freeze up and only after think "that's what I should have said/he should know". I see him on Monday in his office so fingers crossed it goes well.
Thank you again for your support