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Originally Posted by harmonyinheart
Again, thank you for your support. I don't always feel that my doc and I are committed to fighting together, esp when he says what he said to me yesterday about seeing someone else. And you say "but you (guys) keep trying". I wish I didn't feel like he was giving up on me.
And I am grateful that I have a mother and she is willing and wanting to take me for all of my ECTS, but we don't jive very well. I wish we had a different relationship but we are just two different from one another in too many ways.
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My pdoc did "offer" to send me to someone else. When we'd talked more about this, he'd explained he'd felt obligated to at least "offer" care under someone else because he was feeling he did not know how to help any longer (with meds).
He'd admitted, within that conversation, that he'd still truly wanted to work with me; yet, has an obligation to look out for my welfare first.
That's when we both realized no other practitioner was going to know more about me than he does. We get along very well. He can prescribe meds. 35 years experience. Outside of a possible consult, how would it be helpful for me to move on? It wouldn't be helpful in my case.
This is when we more formally committed to continue to work together, even though he'd felt he'd run out of med options.
It's okay to discuss (with your pdoc) the possible pros and cons of making a change.
Please do tell him what you'd heard from him and all about any associated feelings. It's very important he knows if you feel he's "giving up" on you.
It's his role to help you to find healing, not to create more anxiety and/or despair. He knows this and can help to clarify his intentions.
Our pdocs are human. Sometimes, some of them feel inadequate or unsure, etc.
I hope you and he will find a way to have a heart-to-heart and will clarify matters.

WC
(P.S. My mom and I are very different from one another. It's taken a commitment and time to truly Love and accept one another as we are. We have grown to truly deeply appreciate one another. Aging can help with this.

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