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Old Aug 27, 2017, 12:37 AM
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Unconditional positive regard, for example, is hugely manipulative and bizarre behavior. It's a fake stance, and deliberate fakery is by definition manipulation.


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How would therapy possibly work without unconditional positive regard? If therapists were openly judging clients for the very things that they probably need to talk about, no one would tell their therapist anything.
can there actually be such a thing as 'unconditional' positive regard? positive regard seems plausible, but unconditional???

i'm not too convinced it can exist that easily in a therapeutic relationship, a relationship where those involved know very little about the other person. seems like there is the possibility of too many biases, either conscious or unconscious, that could lie just beneath the surface. and if that is the case, and the therapist is not transparent about those biases or even aware of them, then the T is not being fully honest in the relationship or could be manipulating the client to believe that they are.
Thanks for this!
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