One thing I figured out in my late 20's/early 30's (about sexual encounters :-) was that I had all the right "equipment" and it all worked the way it was supposed to and that led me to realize that the "problems" I had were "educational." I could get more interpersonal experience so I wasn't as unsure/afraid and I could learn how to interact better with therapy, etc.

I think I make that distinction; there are lots of things that one can do one's self through experience and education to make one better so those sorts of problems are just "dysfunctional" problems whereas things that time/experience/therapy etc. can't help are genuine "illness".