I feel that your T is being very unfair. You are already existing friends with this person & I don't see why your T is being so defensive. As for her behaving & reacting the way she does when you see each other in the grocery store, is not only rude, but is very hurtful. She's 'allegedly' a 'professional' so if it were me, I'd ask her to re read her copy of her professional conduct book! You are right to feel as you do & id advise you to talk further with her about these issues & be perfectly honest about how 'she' makes you feel.