Barreja.....I feel your pain. I've been in several situations with my kids and their friendships, where all of the sudden things got weird between us parents and things were said, actions were taken and many questions were raised as to why someone did what or said what. Definitely sounds like there is some missing information as to why exactly the parents of Julie made the decision they did. I think they probably were concerned over the distance ( I would be too), but I get the feeling there was something else involved that also played into their decision to say no. I also understand how you feel with having to break the disappointing news to your daughter and try to explain it to her when even you don't quite understand why they said no. It's a tough spot to be in for you and your daughter. And I will also say that I completely understand things getting heated and saying things that now you wish may not have been said. I had a parent argue with me and she kept trying to make it personal between she and I. Blowing insult after insult at me. I kept my focus on the topic at hand and did not return her nasty comments, but boy was it hard to do. I still look back on that conversation and wish I'd given her the vicious verbal lashing I feel she deserved, but it would have made things very awkward for my daughter and me, especially since we have to live 2 doors down from each other (as a side note---If I ever move, I'm going to let her have it on moving day!). Anyway, I hope that maybe after the smoke clears from all of this, that your daughter and Julie will be able to reconnect as friends again. As for the parents, the relationship will probably never be the same and they will always have their guard up, but who cares. I think this is more about your daughter and Julie anyway. They are both blameless in all of this. I'd let your daughter know that it's still okay to be friends with Julie. Maybe the time now is not right for a visit, but they could still stay in touch and remain friends.