hi there
I've had a rocky relationship with my mom since I was a kid. Had what I now know was a type of OCD as a child in which obsessive thoughts about my mom was the main feature. Fortunately I have gotten past that now, because some things recently would have triggered it badly. Sometimes I don't know if my mom is acting normal or not and it really bothers me, and I don't know who to ask about it. I'm not sure if some of it is from getting older, although she's not old old. She recently had an op to remove haemorrhoids and has been increasingly obsessed with the involved body parts and just talks about it constantly. I've read online that older people often get obsessed with bowel movements or something but I have no idea if that's what's going on.

What kind of bothered me though was a while ago when she changed my nephew's nappy, I walked in on them playing this game of throwing the urine-soaked nappy up onto the curtain rail and pushing it off again. Like my mom was just throwing this dirty nappy around and they were both laughing hysterically at it. I was just thinking, what the f***? I don't think I'm particularly squeamish, but is it normal for an adult to play a game like this? Ok - I realise "normal" basically doesn't exist, but I feel extremely uncomfortable around all of this. I kind of wanted to ask someone about it but feel too embarrassed to talk to my therapist about it. I wasn't going to say anything to my sister (my nephew's mother) about it, because I have no idea whether she'd laugh it off or be horrified.