Okay, fine, I'll bite.

UPR is not supposed to be something that therapists can 100% achieve. Neither are the other core conditions - congruence and empathy. They are qualities to engender and to aspire to and to very much always keep in mind.

Have you ever seen or spoken to someone, and made a snap judgement, and then stopped yourself, thinking "wait - that's not fair or true"? There you go. It's about doing that. It's not about stopping ourselves from making judgements in the first place - that's impossible. It's in our nature to make judgements.

It's really not that difficult to treat clients with UPR the vast majority of the time. I don't find it difficult, and there's nothing fake about it. If you understand that everyone is just doing what they can to get by with the tools they were given, and if you understand that your role is to be there for them and experience their world as they describe it, then you don't make negative judgements about them.

I know there are plenty of terrible therapists out there who still can't manage that. Maybe they have to pretend instead. That's disturbing. But that should reflect on them and how s**t they are, not the concept itself.