Not many would care for a loved one who is ill. You are truly one in a kind that way. He is lucky to have you. Just be sure to find time to look after yourself too. I know it will be easier once all the aides and etc are in place and familiar with him and what they are expected to do, but even now you need to find little ten or fifteen minute breaks for you.

Would it work to put him in front of the TV with a plastic cup of water or iced tea or etc, and you just sit n relax in n the next room for a couple minutes? Or would that be dangerous too? If so, maybe you can be in same room, but not "in his line of sight" that way he doesn't see you n it may be a "out of sight, out of mind" technique ... but yet, you can still see him to check on him.

Anyway, just some ideas, sorry if unwanted.