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Old Dec 27, 2007, 11:53 PM
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Thanks Sister, Fluff, and Sunrise. I know ultimately it is up to me when to stop. I was just wondering if divine insight hits you and you just know its time to stop because it feels right. Or if stopping therapy tends to be one of those decisions that you question from time to time.

Fluffy, you're right I have been continually questioning what I'm doing in therapy (probably because I’m deranged). My husband knew about my last session because I was off work and had to explain where I was going. He immediately challenged why I was going, that I did need that crap, and I needed to watch what I told “those people”. I didn’t inform him that I was going to therapy on a regular basis—mainly for this very reason. Intellectually I know this is part of his objection is simply him attempting to control and keep me isolated. I did a good job of simply saying, “ I'm going for me and I don't have to explain myself.” Although I didn't play his game, his attack hit the mark with regard to making me doubt myself and my decision to keep going. I spoke to my T about this exchange and that I was questioning therapy. She gave her perspective as to why she thought my husband was so against me going to therapy. As for therapy, she said I seem to be thinking through things on my own but that I appear to be benefiting from talking through my problem solving.
Sunrise, part of me is afraid that my questioning therapy is another avoidance tactic. I’m feeling the heat and I don’t like it. In the last session I encountered another period of the dreaded silence. Damn I hate those long pauses! She doesn’t make eye contact and simply sits and shuffles papers and waits for me to answer. Even worse the “I don’t know” and “people” aren’t good enough to break the silence anymore. I know she is just trying to do her job and help me, but it drives me nuts. I guess I am just to the point of-- if I’m going to continue to withhold what’s bothering me, then why go at all. I know the ball is in my court. I haven’t mentioned anything about my fear of dependency.

Guess the bottom line is I’m unhappy but able to fully functioning now. Is simply being unhappy and wanting to explore who I am reason enough to seek therapy and bill my medical insurance?
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