Honestly the bit about "you can't change people" is true. They have to make that choice to WANT to change and then actually do that. You can POSSIBLY help them to understand why they SHOULD want to change, but whether they do it or not, is up to them....and even if they acted as if they changed but didn't really want it, within a short amount of time, they would be back to the same habits.

I understand your pain. I was emotionally neglected n emotionally abused as a child, went on to be raped 3 times, several abusive relationships. I know the pain, but trying to say banning something will make it stop .. is like saying if I dream hard enough the unicorns I dreamt of as being in the sky when I was a kid, will suddenly come prancing on down and play. Not being mean though I know it sounds harsh and I apologise for that, but what I am saying is this: back in 1920, there was a prohibition of alcohol (banning) in the USA due to a constitutional amendment. Did that stop people from drinking? Nope. Drug trafficking is not allowed (banned). Does that stop people from doing it? No.

Pretending that "force feeding" someone a different line of thought will make things better.. that's akin to the abuse the abusers do to us because it's about controlling their minds. Even we didn't just lay down n decide they were right, that we are nothing more than bits of scum for the rest of the world to do with what they will. No, we struggled and clawed our way back up and said "I am important". So, we chose not to change to their will. Force rarely works. Coercion works better sometimes but still not fully. If you want a solid change, it has to come from within more than anywhere else.

Doing something like what Darkness speaks of may work, or it may not. I don't know. I do know this system is broken. But what you propose seems to turn it completely the other direction which would also be just as bad.

See, here's the thing... they as abusers need to face up to what their actions do n understand why that's wrong and see the pain. Us as victims, need to understand we were powerless then because we didn't understand what was happening, but now we will be better informed in future and know what to look for, we need to understand we are all responsible for our decisions in life. We have the power to control our emotions , our actions, our thoughts, our beliefs, our lives... everyone does. When a person is abused, part of that knowledge gets splintered. So you have to figure out how to repair that again. But we are all in control of ourselves, nobody else. We can and do impact each other though and that's both the beauty and agony of life.