I would send him this with the preface:
I felt so anxious about the date tha
t I sent my friends this message trying to figure out what to do:
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Originally Posted by Lola5
The date was okay, but I wasn't interested. At the end, he thanked me twice for going on a date with him and said he had a nice time. I got anxious and said I did, too. He told me he wants to see me again and proposed some super-specific plans about what we should do next time. I got really, really anxious and said "okay" just so the date could end. Now, he keeps texting me several times a day about what day next week I am free.
I am having so much anxiety about this. I feel like I have to go on another date with him because I said "okay" at the end of the last date. But it's awful to string him along. I don't know how to turn him down or tell him I'm not interested. I don't want to exacerbate his mental illnesses. He mentioned several times how his life is impeded by his illnesses. I feel I have acted badly, but I don't know what to do.
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I've decided that it would not be right for me to go on this second date. I'm sorry for leading you on and I'm sharing this message as a way of explanation.
Fact is, you don't owe him an explanation, but it would be awfully kind of you to do so, might relieve some of the guilt you are feeling unnecessarily, and has the benefit of being the whole truth.