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I know ultimately it is up to me when to stop. I was just wondering if divine insight hits you and you just know its time to stop because it feels right. Or if stopping therapy tends to be one of those decisions that you question from time to time.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Well, I did quit therapy with my first therapist and I didn't give it much thought at all. And I didn't ever question it or wish I hadn't quit. I do now wish I had quit more gracefully as she had been helpful to me. What happened was I just stopped going. I called to cancel my appointment the following week. She called back to reschedule and I told her I would call her to reschedule when I had my calendar or some such balderdash. I never called back and she did not contact me either. End of therapy. I quit with her because she was no longer helping and I felt I had experienced all she had to offer--exhausted her therapeutic skill set. I was getting nowhere in therapy and was profoundly stuck. I guess I realized I was never going to move further with her approach. I just wish now that I had said a proper good-bye; it was kind of rude of me to just never go back. It sounds to me like you are being much more thoughtful about whether to quit, and that is not a bad thing.

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I guess I am just to the point of-- if I’m going to continue to withhold what’s bothering me, then why go at all. I know the ball is in my court.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think this is very insightful of you, mckell. Indeed, why are you there if you are not going to deal with this important issue? I understand how you could be frustrated with yourself for continuing to go to therapy but not dealing with this. It's also interesting that you mentioned that your insurance pays for therapy. My insurance does not pay for my current therapist, it is 100% out of pocket. There is a high monetary value on that therapy hour each week and d**med if I am going to be wasting my own money not dealing with my issues and getting the most out of that hour that I can. I think if my insurance paid, I would be less motivated to work hard as it wouldn't be costing me so much. But that's part of who I am. I am very frugal and hate to waste money, so I am working very hard in therapy to get the most bang for my buck. Does that make sense?

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Is simply being unhappy and wanting to explore who I am reason enough to seek therapy and bill my medical insurance?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yes, it's reason enough to seek therapy. It's a very good reason! I can't answer the insurance question. Has your reason for seeking therapy changed recently? Before, were you in therapy for a different reason than "exploring who you are and being unhappy"?