Since you attend SMART Recovery (which doesn't exist where I live), it's interesting to hear a different perspective. In A.A. (which many people HATE!), we hold that Step 1 is the only step you have to do on a daily basis: "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanagable." Personally, there are no lines in the sand for me; admitting I'm powerless is enough. I know damned well that I can't have "just one" & maintain my sobriety, or keep my life from becoming a mess again.

It's too bad there are so many "Step Nazis" out there & sponsors who think they're gods. I avoid both & have been able to maintain sobriety for many 24 hours. I go by the motto: "Take what you need & leave the rest." Boy! I'm starting to sound like an "A.A. Nazi"! I wish we had SMART Recovery around here. I'm an atheist & have trouble with many of A.A.'s steps. All I'm sayin' is that I have to accept I can never drink safely again...to burn that into my brain. There are no lines in the sand for me...& to quote another trite A.A. phrase: "My best thinking got me here."

Keep on fighting the good fight, bro!!!