This is exactly how I feel. I have a bush in front of my condo. I hate it. Every summer it grows these very fragrant flowers. I have tried each year to figure out how to delay the flowers until the end of the summer but it just gets out of control around July. When that happens I have to cut it back and cut the flowers off because the bees get insane. The bush is technically the condo's property but I am allowed to trimm it.

EVERY SINGLE YEAR, this happens.
- neighbor one: Why are you cutting it?
- Neighbor two: are you allergic to bees?
- Neighbor three: can I have the flowers you are throwing away.

People... it is a bush on my land. STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT. I have even taken to doing it late at night but they still come a running when they see me taking the bush out.

At work I have my door shut all the time but, on occasion, I might leave it open. This apparently is the universal sign that people have to come to my office and start talking about some stupid thing that is bothering them. It doesn't matter how much I later shut my office door or how many times they want me to go someplace with them that I say I have work... they just don't get the hint.

I do feel like I have to talk to them. If you don't you are perceived as being rude. And imho it is a lot worse to have people gossiping about you as the crazy neighbor or the crazy co worker than just to put up with it. But I don't understand why people seem to obsess on me.

I feel like I understand how to react to people. I see my neighbor outside and I want to indicate that I am friendly. I say "hello" beautiful day huh? And then go on my way. That indicates that I want you to know I like you but respect your privacy. This leaves it up to you to decide how you want to respond. But other people seem to think it is their job to tell me how to live my life. It only makes me hide in my house from these people.