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Originally Posted by Anastasia~
Why do therapists, who are supposed to be "normal', (or at least are trained how normal should look) how do they stay in such a unhealthy relationship on both sides? Why would they keep it going? Are they getting something out of it? Maybe they don't want to hurt the client, but if they hate the client, it is more damaging. They should know that. Like, due to their countertransference, are they sometimes acting out their hatred that they had for their mother or whomever? Somtimes it seems almost voyeuristic, let's see how crazy the patient can get. Patients like me, stay no matter how they are treated. It is very difficult to go against one's fear of abandonment. But I wish I had ignored myself and left.
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I see no evidence that therapists as a group are normal. A lot of them are probably unbalanced and very needy. Many are probably getting "emotional sustenance" from their adoring clients, as one critic said. Also they are making a living from the process, of course.
In my experience it was a co-dependent co-attachment. The dishonest part is that I was paying and openly pursuing needs, while she was getting paid and covertly pursuing needs. When her needs were threatened she cut me off, which was difficult for her, but she has a bunch of other clients to fill up her emptiness.