So sorry you're going through that, UpDownAround. That's what I'm afraid of for us, ultimately. If we don't do something to change this now, I don't know what will hold us together later. But I feel like the space between us is growing. I know he notices it too, but he doesn't see his contribution to that space growing. And I don't know how to address it without making it intolerable (meaning how he approaches 'talking it out' with me) - having an arbiter, like a marriage counselor, might help, but I don't know if that would be useful if he doesn't see that there are behaviors and attitudes he'll need to change in himself. I know there will be things I'll need to work on, but going to marriage counseling together to work on me alone won't get us anywhere.