Sidony, I use to believe that the goal of therapy for me was to be able to put my feet up on T's couch. This became a battle within me trying to work out ways to not have to do this as in my head I thought all "sorted" people could do this. I told T once that if being "cured" meant I will eventually lay on her couch then lets go for damage limitation now because thats never going to happen. T said being comfortable with someone isn't about being able to put ones feet up or not its about being able to talk about the deeper issues, some people put their feet up immediately but never really venture into that unknown place. I think your being able to tell your T you dont have fantasys about him is the equivalent of being comfortable enought without having to "act" it out. Good for you!
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