Sometimes I think I am being set up to be the bad guy. Other times I think she really is okay with this. But we are approaching retirement and disagree on when it starts, where we will live and in how large of a place. We used to agree on it and I haven't changed the plan. I get that maybe we have to compromise since she has, but she is unwilling to talk about that. She is also unwilling to see a marriage counselor because she says my only motivation is sex. I would hope that would be an outcome but I miss feeling close to her in other ways just as much. It sucks.