Woah. Definitely sending some hugs your way. That is SO much to deal with and juggle and manage. The whole situation sounds very very very hard. I can see that taking care of your most basic life needs (food, water, shelter, safety) is an ongoing struggle and challenge. Life in a first world country should NOT be that way!!!
I am glad you are getting a well. May your well give you and your wife plenty of fresh, clean water whenever you need it.