Me too. Esp. with the last relationship I was in, it was chock full of examples from this list.

1. He called me "a keeper" as if I were a pet dog, in front of his friends at dinner.

2. He never listened to my ideas or respected my opinions about anything.

3. When he would say something mean, that I'd call him out on, he'd deflect by calling me "sensitive."

4. Once, in his car, I threw a gum wrapper on the floor after I put a piece of chewing gum in my mouth and he said, "Pick up that wrapper and put it in your pocket now! I don't want you littering!" (We were both 38 years old at the time)

5. He trivialized a traumatic car accident I experienced, by comparing my injuries to another female friend of his, stating "oh that's nothing my friend so-and-so had it much worse than you," instead of offering me compassion and understanding when I shared a vulnerable time in my life.

6. He'd lie all the time about not dating his coworker behind my back, even when I'd catch him getting ready to meet her after work. He'd tell me he was going to the gym, and wouldn't be home when I got home (we lived together). But then I'd come home and see him all dressed up with a bottle of wine and ask him where he was going, and comment that I didn't know he needed to bring a bottle of wine with him to the gym. Then he'd tell me he was meeting her for "coffee" (yeah, after they had sex, i later found out).

7. He was 100% emotionally unavailable and had no interest in connecting with me on an emotional level. He just needed a placeholder person aka "rebound" which it turns out, I was.

8. He constantly played the victim about his role in his family, his role at work, and with with ex-wife because he always had someone else to blame for his problems, rather than look at himself as the cause of his own problems.

9. He never really cared about my feelings or respected me. When I found text messages on his phone from his coworker and confronted him, I asked him if he wanted me to leave and he said, "well, you're welcome to sleep on the couch but you need to be gone by morning." Yuck. He didn't even apologize for cheating on me at this point. He tried to deflect by focusing on the fact that found text messages on his phone as evidence of his cheating instead.

Lesson learned, as they say. I deserved better. I don't know why I settled for this loser. But I did at the time.