I actually find helping others helps me in a few ways.

First, it allows me to look at a problem (that I may be dealing with or have recently dealt with) at a non-personal view, meaning I am better able to detach myself from the situation and yet still remain with the problem in order to find a solution...one I may be able to use later myself
2. It allows me a distraction from my own worries
3. It draws in a supportive group of people to me.
4. It allows me to feel a sense of self worth.

Some would look upon that as selfish.

I see it as "sharing".

So when I have hard times, others come and share with me. That's what makes it work.

Thank you for your kind words.
*hugs*