Hello folks,
As the title of the thread suggests, serious relationships seem to cause me a great deal of anxiety followed by an intense period of depression. All of my relationships seem to end because I get completely overwhelmed with anxiety. I then become very depressed once things go sideways from the anxiety and the relationship ends.

A little backstory, I’ve generally always stuck to the casual hookups (bars, clubs, etc.) and stayed away from relationships. This is definitely not healthy but it just seems to work out this way as I’m a male in my 20’s with a bachelor pad in the city.

After the one-two month marker in a relationship I always feel like I run out of things to say or do. It always feels after that time frame I have nothing further to add to the relationship. The anxiety then ramps up and I start to convince myself they are better than me in every way possible. It gets to the point where I even begin to question my ability outside of the relationship such as at work or doing simple things like reading a book or the paper. It then escalates to the point where that is the only thing occupying my mind and I seem to be lost in this sort of ‘brain fog’, if you will. It’s around this time we usually break-up. I then spiral into a deep, deep depression and lose all interest in everything. The depression part is absolutely devastating. So bad to the point where you don’t get out of bed and it definitely interferes with your performance at work and relationships with your friends. It will take quite a while for me to rebuild my confidence again and get back to a sound mental state after this collapse.

I take meds. for anxiety and depression. I’m also starting to see a psychologist to try and get to the bottom of this. Also, the girls who I seem to get into a serious relationship with are the high achievers with type A personalities who most likely want to ‘wear the pants’ in a relationship. I’m sure this doesn’t help my problem but it’s still no reason to implode like how I have.

Has anyone has experienced similar problems and if so, what did you do to correct it? Or if anyone has any suggestions they think might help that would be appreciated too.

FYI, I’m very much not gay. That would seem like the obvious answer here but that’s not the case lol.
Thanks