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Originally Posted by eskielover
From my personal experience of having lived at home & went to college until 21 & then got married, finished college, & had me computer engineeringvcareer, I had never lived alone or had to be totally dependent on myself. I was very independent but then after losing my career & only having disabiluty to live on & being unstable with bad med side effect reactions where i couldnt take care of myself, it scared me to think of what it would be like if I lived alone & something like that happened. I had gone veom being independent within my marrisge to being totally physically dependent.....so I was afraid to take the step into the ALONE. My brain was independent but my body was a mess which then messed with my bain.
After I finally left that independent person totally took over & I now love my alone life. I am finally healthy both physically & mentally & surrounded by the nature like I had wanted all my life.
Dont know how similar your feelings are about it TishaBuv.
There are still times when I need a guy's strength to get something open or a repair completed but even with that I hsve become a mechanic, a plumber. Back to my old thinking.....there is really NOTHING i cant do myself. May need to ask for help but thats ok too. Brings me to connect better with friends.
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Well, I think Tisha is more than strong enough to be on her own, and she needs to have the time to focus on herself for once instead of always trying to please such a dispassionate spouse, failing, and falling to self harm because her emotions of frustration and self doubt are overwhelming. She needs to find a T exclusively for her, not a marriage T, and to focus on getting herself better at all costs. I don't want to think of her resorting to SI due to the stress and feeling overwhelmed and negative toward herself.